{"id":197,"date":"2020-10-08T15:00:51","date_gmt":"2020-10-08T15:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenextweb.com\/?p=1322361"},"modified":"2020-10-08T15:00:51","modified_gmt":"2020-10-08T15:00:51","slug":"youre-saying-i-have-to-do-something-well-then-im-not-gonna","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.londonchiropracter.com\/?p=197","title":{"rendered":"You\u2019re saying I HAVE to do something? Well, then I\u2019m not gonna"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Boris is the wise ol\u2019 CEO of TNW who writes a weekly column on everything about being an entrepreneur in tech \u2014 from managing stress to embracing awkwardness. You can get his musings straight to your inbox by signing up for his newsletter!<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

If you tell me I HAVE to do something, I no longer want to do it. That\u2019s me, and I\u2019m not proud of it. If you tell me I HAVE to read this book, I no longer want to read it. That movie I MUST see? I no longer want to see it. That show I CAN\u2019T miss? I\u2019ll miss it. You don\u2019t own me. I can\u2019t be told what to do.<\/p>\n

But that doesn\u2019t mean I can\u2019t be persuaded. The people who know me know how to get me to do things. Even my own kids will rephrase their requests to make it seem like something is entirely optional or really my own idea. Otherwise, they know my face will contort, I\u2019ll cross my arms, and that will be the end of it.<\/p>\n

In that sense, I\u2019m a child. And while I like to think I\u2019m special, I have a feeling that no one wants to be told what to do.<\/p>\n

[Read: That task shouldn\u2019t take more than an hour, most likely less than 30 minutes\u2026<\/a>]<\/em><\/p>\n

I rarely tell my kids that they MUST do something or that they are BANNED from doing something. When one of them asks me if it\u2019s okay to stay up the whole night, I won\u2019t say no. I\u2019ll stare at the ceiling for a few seconds, and then ask them what the downside of that would be.<\/p>\n

Before you know it, they\u2019ll come to the conclusion that not sleeping is actually a terrible idea. Or maybe they\u2019ll give it a try, and then learn from experience that not sleeping for a whole night isn\u2019t as fun as it sounds.<\/p>\n

This has a downside too. My kids have been trained to argue to get what they want, and the older they get, the more often they\u2019ll out-argue me.<\/p>\n

I can live with that though, because having an argument about something makes me reflect on my own motivations. Sometimes as a parent, you\u2019ll say things that you assumed were correct but really haven\u2019t thought about. Having to explain to a toddler why one needs to wear pants in the house is a great moment to think about why this is such a golden rule. You\u2019ll be eating peanut butter straight from the jar in your underwear before you even realize. But isn\u2019t this what we all really want?<\/p>\n

Now, what exactly is the management lesson here? Whatever. Make up your own lesson. I\u2019m not even wearing pants today, so don\u2019t listen to me.<\/p>\n

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Published October 8, 2020 \u2014 15:00 UTC <\/p>\n

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