{"id":2997,"date":"2021-02-11T16:08:45","date_gmt":"2021-02-11T16:08:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenextweb.com\/?p=1338660"},"modified":"2021-02-11T16:08:45","modified_gmt":"2021-02-11T16:08:45","slug":"speak-less-communicate-better","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.londonchiropracter.com\/?p=2997","title":{"rendered":"Speak less, communicate better"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Boris is the wise ol\u2019 CEO of TNW who writes a weekly column on everything about being an entrepreneur in tech \u2014 from managing stress to embracing awkwardness. You can get his musings straight to your inbox by signing up for his newsletter!<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

When we think about communicating more, most of us imagine it\u2019s about talking more. But communication is really about exchanging information \u2014 that includes receiving it. You can\u2019t listen when you\u2019re talking, or as Larry King once put it: \u201cI never learned anything while I was talking.\u201d<\/p>\n

Despite this, most conversations are composed of two people just waiting for their own turn to speak. Now before you start thinking I\u2019m putting myself on a high horse\u2026 I\u2019m definitely guilty of talking too much. Sometimes I come home from an amazing<\/em> meeting, only to realize I was way too excited and eager to tell my stories that I didn\u2019t let the other person speak<\/p>\n

But this isn\u2019t inherently a bad thing, it\u2019s just that the real master of that meeting wasn\u2019t me \u2014 it was the other person.<\/p>\n

[Read: What I learned from skills I no longer need<\/a>]<\/em><\/p>\n

If you want to please someone, all you have to do is encourage them to tell their stories. If you walk out of a meeting having said nothing, and the other person did ALL the talking, they will feel great about meeting you and remember it as an amazing<\/em> conversation.<\/p>\n

The best part though is that YOU will actually have had an interesting conversation. Not speaking will force you to listen, and when you listen, you will learn.<\/p>\n

But how do you strike up a meaningful conversation with someone you might not know that well? A father of a friend of mine used to be an airline CEO. Whenever he traveled, he\u2019d always chat up the people he sat next to. He had this great line that\u2019s been a favorite of mine ever since I heard it: \u201cI already know all my own stories, so let\u2019s talk about you.\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a rare thing to meet people who are genuinely interested in you and are willing to really listen to what you have to say. Honestly, you might as well wish for a unicorn.<\/p>\n

So for your next conversation, I challenge you to conduct a little experiment: be that magical creature. Find an excuse to not talk. Any at all!<\/p>\n

Say you are tired of your own stories and want to hear theirs, or tell them your throat is sore from an intense evening of living room karaoke. Do everything in your power to encourage them to speak more, give their stories space, revel in what excites them, sit back and see what happens.<\/p>\n

My bet is that you\u2019ll learn something, and you\u2019ll delight someone.<\/p>\n

Can\u2019t get enough of Boris? Check out his older stories here<\/a>, and sign up for his newsletter here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

Published February 11, 2021 \u2014 16:08 UTC <\/p>\n

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