{"id":3319,"date":"2021-02-25T15:15:18","date_gmt":"2021-02-25T15:15:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thenextweb.com\/?p=1340522"},"modified":"2021-02-25T15:15:18","modified_gmt":"2021-02-25T15:15:18","slug":"stop-listening-to-your-yesbut-brain-if-you-want-to-grow","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.londonchiropracter.com\/?p=3319","title":{"rendered":"Stop listening to your #yesbut brain if you want to grow"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Boris is the wise ol\u2019 CEO of TNW who writes a weekly column on everything about being an entrepreneur in tech \u2014 from managing stress to embracing awkwardness. You can get his musings straight to your inbox by signing up for his newsletter!<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s all too natural to go on the defensive when someone challenges you. You don\u2019t even think about it, it\u2019s so instinctive it feels like an integral part of the conversation. You\u2019re challenged, so you defend.<\/p>\n

But is it really? I\u2019ve started to force myself to bite my lip when someone says something I interpret as a challenge to me. It\u2019s far from easy \u2014 because my brain begins to shout \u2018yes but!\u2019 every time I perceive a challenge \u2014 but holding myself back has started to pay off.<\/p>\n

Now, of course there are moments where a well-placed \u201cyes, but\u201d makes sense. Like, if you want to go out all night and your parents say no, you have no choice but to throw in a \u201cyes, but\u201d to explain how you cleaned your room, washed the dishes, and finished all your homework.<\/p>\n

[Read: Why you need to stress out your co-workers\u2026 sometimes<\/a>]<\/em><\/p>\n

However, in most other cases, like when you\u2019re trying to learn something \u2014 which, let\u2019s face it, should be happening every day at work \u2014 the \u201cyes, but\u201d part of your brain won\u2019t help you at all.<\/p>\n

I noticed this particularly when I was skiing. A ski teacher will say to the skier, \u201ctry to move your weight to the front a bit, so you\u2019re more centered on your ski.\u201d<\/p>\n

If you truly want to become a better skier, this is the right moment to shut up and listen. But that\u2019s hard. Most of the time, you\u2019ll hear an immediate \u201cyes, but\u201d but from the skier:<\/p>\n

\u201cYes, but that\u2019s because the snow is really powdery, so then I always lean back a bit.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sure, that reply is understandable, but it\u2019s not constructive \u2014 for anyone.<\/p>\n

It won\u2019t help the skier get better, and \u201cyes, but\u201d is also frustrating for teachers and mentors. They\u2019re not here to have a negotiation and find the middle ground between them and the student. They just want to give you the gift of their knowledge \u2014 and often you might also have paid them to do it, too.<\/p>\n

So instead of allowing your #yesbut brain to take over, shut the fuck up and really listen to what your teacher has to say.<\/p>\n

And before you start thinking \u2014 \u201cI don\u2019t ski, I don\u2019t have teachers, this doesn\u2019t apply to me\u201d \u2014 I want to make it clear that\u2019s your #yesbut brain taking over.<\/p>\n

Your co-workers and kids are teaching you. Every book or article you read can be a learning experience. Life is one big learning experience! But the lessons won\u2019t stick until you stop defending and start listening.<\/p>\n

Can\u2019t get enough of Boris? Check out his older stories here<\/a>, and sign up for his newsletter here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

Published February 25, 2021 \u2014 15:15 UTC <\/p>\n

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